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Michael S. Sorensen Ù I Hear You The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships eBook

ePub ☆ mobi I Hear You The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships ☆ 9780999104002 Õ [Read] ➪ I Hear You The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships Author Michael S. Sorensen – Johns-cycling-diary.co.uk WhatTionshipsuickly resolve or even prevent argumentsHelp others become open to your point of viewGive advice and feedback that sticksProvide support and encouragement to others even when you don't know how to fix the problemAnd much In short this skill is powerful Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you'll be amazed at the difference they can make I received this book through a Goodreads giveawayThis book is a concise review of essential listening skills It does not as many personal development books do spend a lot of time explaining why you might want to read the bookacuire these skills this always frustrates me You've already got me as a reader Let's get right to the substance Short and sweet without claiming to reveal anything terribly new this is the kind of book I appreciate to help me to review and recalibrate Am I the kind of listener who leaves others feeling validated? Or do I blunder in with advice before knowing whether my advice is wanted or even based on the whole story? If I had children I think I would use this book to help me teach them interpersonal skills As it is I'll be glad to have it on my kindle to reread and double check myself

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What if making one tweak to your day to day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life? In this 3 hour conversational read you'll discover the whats whys and hows of one of the most valuable yet surprisingly little known communication skills validationWhether you're looking to improve your relationship with your spouse navigate difficult c Audible Daily Deal 91619 for 195I’ve only read a few self help style books but I’m trying to improve my communication style not only in my own relationship but in my new job as a supervisor so I’ve been on the lookout for something that would fit into that category and this fit the bill “Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected” – Richard Carlson There are some great things about this book First is the length The author comes right out and says that nothing bothers him than a book that takes 300 pages to say something that could have been said in 50 So this is short and sweet the author gets to the point gives some examples and moves on I appreciate that being that I like my fluff in fiction and not self help books Second is the language Since the author is not a therapist or has a bunch of letters after his name this reads well The concept of validation is distilled down to layman’s language and it is easy to get There are some real world examples that help solidify every concept or step and they feel natural with everyday verbage that I could see myself saying validation in the context of interpersonal skills anyway is the act of recognizing and affirming the validity or worth of a person’s emotions Essentially validation means saying to someone “I hear you I get what you’re feeling and it’s perfectly alright to feel that way” Third for me was the biggest Just because you validate an emotion does not mean that you agree I’ve struggled with this one in the past the most Just because you are acknowledging how a person is feeling and telling them you understand the feelings they are having does not mean that you agree with what is making them feel that way Validation is not saying you’re right I still struggle with this but it is a work in progressOverall this had some great tips for where to start on your journey to learning how to listen to people differently in a conversation and understand where they are coming from It pointed out how some of our initial responses to situations while trying to be helpful might really invalidate someone’s feelings I liked that this was short and sweet and gave me things to work on in my day to day life without all the fluff and fodder I’ve found in some other books of this type Even thought Michael isn’t a phycologist or therapist I thought his 4 step program and distillation of the information from his many years of therapy was really good and useful

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I Hear You The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary RelationshipsOnversations at work or connect on a deeper level with friends and family this book delivers simple practical proven techniues for improving any relationship in your lifeMastery of this simple skill will enable you to Calm and sometimes even eliminate the concerns fears and uncertainties of othersIncrease feelings of love respect and appreciation in your romantic rela The book in a nutshell1 Empathize2 Validate their emotionsAnd then if reuested3 Provide your perspective recommendations 4 Finish with final validationMost often only 1 and 2 is needed Providing perspectives and advice without validating people's emotions and recognizing that their emotions are understandableacceptable is a freuent flaw committed by most peopleI found the above convincing and paying attention to validating people's feelings and emotions is surely sound advice The author overplays and simplify John Gottman's relationship theories He provides very little advice beyond the above which he however exemplifies fairly wellIt is an OK short read but it is very limited in scope